The Heavy Weight of Motherhood

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The full version of this post can be found at Babble.com.

I’ve felt the weight of a growing life inside my body — heavier through each trimester, as this small human gained body mass and limbs. Until one day I was housing a full-size newborn and his entire living quarters, feeling the pressure of gravity on my hips as I waddled to the bathroom … again. (My bladder felt the weight of motherhood, too).

When he was finally on the outside, 7 pounds of pure loveliness, the weight not only redistributed, it seemed to magnify.

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I’ve carried a 9-pound baby in a 10-pound car seat, with three packed bags slung over my shoulders, with a full baby swing in one hand and a Boppy pillow draped around my neck. Have you pushed a double stroller? Have you rocked a 20-pound child, up and down, shushing and consoling, and felt your lower back tense under the weight? (I knew about prenatal vitamins and healthy eating, but no one told me to prep my muscles, too.) I’ve carried loads I never thought I could, just to avoid waking a sleeping child.

I’ve felt the weight of exhaustion settling in my eye sockets.

I’ve felt the weight of exhaustion settling in my eye sockets.

I know the weight of a breast pump sucking milk out of my body as I worked long hours away from my new infant, and how my heart felt anchored down with heavy guilt and doubt. Every day I’d drop him off at daycare — his eyes just opening for the day, focusing on a mother waving goodbye. I’d come home just as his dad was bathing and prepping for bedtime. His eyes fluttered closed, clutching my shirt, as if to say, It’s you! You weren’t a dream! Don’t leave me, please!  (That’s the kind of weight that’ll fracture your beating heart, believe me. So much that I quit my job four months later.)

Why, though? Why does parenting come with such a remarkable and tangible weight to it?

Why does parenting come with such a remarkable and tangible weight to it?
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These photos are of my sister, who just added a new baby girl to her (our) family. She'll share her home birth story with us later this week. xo