"Life may be scary, but it's only temporary."
Never have a bunch of muppets made so much sense. I don't know if you're familiar with Avenue Q, but my friend told me that their song "For Now" got her through an especially rough break-up, and it's been stuck in my head ever since.
When life gets hard, and the day/season feels unending, and it all just feels unfair, maybe this muppet-sung song can help shift your perspective:
To the mom with a baby attached to her nipple every hour...
To the young woman scanning through a Newsfeed filled with former friends living the 20-something life, while she paces back and forth soothing a colicky baby...
To anyone sacrificing showers or paychecks or meaningful conversations to muscle through this exhausting season...
Hey you, catching vomit in your hands.
Hey you, wondering if you'll ever feel like yourself again.
Hey you, dropping your beating heart off at daycare and feeling torn from the insides out.
It's only for now.
The pacifiers, the diapers, the sleep regression, the new-mom exhaustion, the confusion, the engorgement, the anxiety, the peacefulness of a sleeping newborn...
To anyone feeling lonely, bored, joyful, unsatisfied, tired, healthy, grief-stricken, angry, uncomfortable...
Life goes on
Full of surprises
You'll be faced with problems of all shapes and sizes
You're going to have to make a few compromises
But only for now."
The crazy thing is how permanent and overwhelming each stage feels, right? Like, THIS IS MY LIFE NOW. THIS IS IT. AHHHHHH.
Well, yes. But only for now.
Life sucks right now? IT'S ONLY FOR NOW. It'll get easier, and then harder, and then better, and then more difficult. 'Tis the nature of life.
Life is working out perfectly and you're so crazy happy? IT'S ONLY FOR NOW. Enjoy these moments and soak it all up, because it'll get harder, and then easier, and then better, and then more difficult. 'Tis the nature of life.
Your bad mood is temporary.
Your college class is temporary.
Your honeymoon phase is temporary.
Believe it or not, that colic is temporary.
The impermanence of life is the only thing we know for sure. Do you find that scary? Because I find it LIBERATING. And resisting this reality is nothing but futile. Things will continue to change and bob up and down — how are you going to handle the NOW?
As the Avenue Q muppets say, "Take a breath, look around, swallow your pride. For now."
Because it's only for now.