Your Voice Matters

Your story matters. Your challenges and experiences matter. The things you've learned, they matter.

They matter to all of the other younger mamas out there feeling alone, in need of inspiration. We all just want to be heard, to be validated. To know that someone else "gets" it and maybe, just maybe, things will be okay. Maybe, just maybe, things are already okay.

When Sarah shared her story about being pregnant in college, someone out there saw their own storyline on the screen and nodded along. It was "a breath of fresh air," as one commenter said.

"My biggest recommendation for young women who are pregnant in college, whether through choice or whether they are devastated at those little lines, is find your community, your tribe, your people who will be your safe place. For me, it was my church and those few professors who were willing to ask me how I was doing that week. It might be your girlfriends or your family or your husband's or boyfriend's family, but those people who support you are worth more than any financial aid."  — Sarah

When Krishann shared her story about finishing her degree as a single mom in college, and how she eventually met a new man and complete her family, someone out there said, "That could be me. If she can do it, I can do it."

"When my daughter was two she would go to her Nana (my mom) and say that her father (biological) didn’t like her and ask her why. She didn’t understand why her friends’ daddies would come to the class events and pick them up. She felt like something was wrong with her and would talk as if it was her fault. My heart hurt so badly for my child and I struggled with how to help her understand that it wasn’t about her. I felt like her little heart was concerned about things that it never should have been concerned about. I would beat myself up because I felt like it was my fault. I felt like she was suffering because of the choices I made. She didn’t pick her father; I did. I was the one who kept trying to fix a relationship that couldn’t be fixed.

Leaving her father was difficult, only because I was afraid that she would grow up without a father and I didn’t want that for her. I had to learn that being with someone doesn’t guarantee that they will be there for their child, and that taking care of myself and my happiness was one of the best things that I could have ever done for her."  — Krishann

When Gemma opened up about her miscarriage (as did Amber), someone out there read her words and cried, feeling the pain in her own heart.

"I was stunned and heartbroken by the number of women who reached out to me privately to let me know they too had known this grief. Many of them were young. Some weren’t mothers yet, only for that brief and fleeting time they held new life inside of them. It does happen to the girl who gets pregnant without even trying. It happens to all kinds of women.

I soon found out, through this private outreach of love and support, why young mothers or young would-have-been mothers don’t speak out about their miscarriages. Because when you are young and unexpectedly pregnant and the unthinkable happens, you aren’t always met with gasps of horror, you’re met with sighs of relief."   — Gemma

And how about when Darlene told us about studying abroad with her toddler? Young moms sat behind their screen and thought, "DUDE. HOW COOL. Can I do that?! I just might do that!" Or when Jessica told us the story about knowing her frat-living boyfriend for only 6 months before getting pregnant, and they're now married and growing a family.


So go ahead and tell us yours with this new feature: Add your voice.

Someone out there needs to hear it.