We Might Be Screwing This Thing Up

I spend a lot of time thinking about the changed (and continuously changing) culture that we're raising kids in, especially in the context of my own childhood. Something happened when we were kids — beyond the Internet and cell phones and all of the other reasons the '90s changed the world. We shifted from a latchkey culture — where kids let themselves in after school and wandered around the neighborhood until dinnertime — to a child-centered parenting philosophy.

Over-protection, helicopter parenting — whatever you want to call it. Kids became the center of everything.

Parenting books and parenting experts became extremely lucrative, and the mainstream message was to raise children's self-esteem and make every kid feel special. (Now we know that the '90s parents made some well-intentioned mistakes.)

And that idea has only intensified as the new generation of parents (us!) relies on the Internet as a parenting community. Of course there are unprecedented benefits — more information and support — but are we trying too hard to perfect parenting? Are we too obsessed with it? Heidi would argue yes — that we're chasing perfection and losing ourselves in the process — and I'd agree.

If we're always listening to the newest expert, the newest study — most of which, by the way, are contradictory — we'll slowly lose our intuition. We'll also lack in consistency and confidence.

What else makes Millennial Moms different from previous generations? How else are we potentially screwing up our kids — from faces buried in screens to filtered Instagram photos? I rounded up 12 reasons we might be screwing up the next generation of kids over at Babble.com.

What do you foresee as some of the biggest parenting mistakes of Millennial parents?