From My Inbox: Meet Jen

From: JenSubject: Thank you <3

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I didn't start off as a 20-something mom — I was in college, 18 years old, and I was devastated at first. I made a choice very early on that I would no longer be first in my life, but my daughter would. I knew that there was no reason to ruin her life even though I felt like mine was. I didn't run out and get married like most people suggested, but instead waited until a year later when we decided we were getting married for the RIGHT reasons. Although now looking back, 19 was too young!

We have both changed so much in these last 7 years and lucky for us, we love each other more now than we ever did at 19.

I am now 26 and I have a 7-year-old daughter and a 3-year-old son.

I still feel the stares, the hate, the humiliation that I felt when I was much younger. I know now that I can't take it to heart like I used to. The stares and whispers used to upset me to no end. I have always put every effort into being a good mom and felt like I had to go that much farther to prove it because of my age. Long story short, after everything being a mom is first. I still have hopes and dreams and I will get there soon enough. So it turns out life wasn't ruined and I am doing everything I always planned on, maybe just a tad bit slower. ;)

Thank you so much for sharing your story and what I've always felt. I have a hard time relating to most people my age. A lot of them don't have kids or if they do, I don't always agree with the kind of parent they are.

Not just another statistic,

Jen