So today I'd like to turn the mic over to you, because I'm interested to hear your opinion on this.
We've touched on whether financial stability is a solid prerequisite for parenting (in which I say finances can be built over time — drawing from my own experience), but now I want to talk about financial independence.
How important is financial independence to you, as a younger mom?
Is that something you're working toward? Something you've achieved? Or is it not high on your priority list?
I know the readership here is diverse — some of you are single moms, others are married to older men with great jobs, others are stay-at-home moms in a young marriage, others work while their husbands stay home, and others are still working their way through school with their parents' help. But on a scale of 1 to 10, how important is the goal of financial independence?
Here's my input:
Whether it was the way I was raised, the experiences I've been subjected to, or just an innate resistance to rely on anyone for anything, financial independence has always been a huge priority — and even though my husband and I are pretty 50/50 on the income, there's a peace of mind knowing I could support our family if anything were to happen to him or us. I have firm control over our bank account and financial decisions, mostly because I've seen the devastating effects of financial infidelity and dependence. I've been burned — pretty bad, actually — and I'm grateful to have learned that lesson early. It happened to me, it happened to my mom, it happened to generations of women in the past — and it has the power to destroy a family.
I actually think it's one of the most important messages to come from the feminist movement — and in an age where we're redefining and reevaluating what feminism means in the modern world, is financial dependence a step backward? Does it strip away our options, as women? (I'm really asking for your opinion.)
I understand that circumstances might require a fair amount of reliance on others — whether it's your partner or your parents — but what about in your future?
I'd love to hear your thoughts, as a new wave of young women.