Your Turn: The Importance of Financial Independence

So today I'd like to turn the mic over to you, because I'm interested to hear your opinion on this.

We've touched on whether financial stability is a solid prerequisite for parenting (in which I say finances can be built over time — drawing from my own experience), but now I want to talk about financial independence.

How important is financial independence to you, as a younger mom?

Is that something you're working toward? Something you've achieved? Or is it not high on your priority list?

I know the readership here is diverse — some of you are single moms, others are married to older men with great jobs, others are stay-at-home moms in a young marriage, others work while their husbands stay home, and others are still working their way through school with their parents' help. But on a scale of 1 to 10, how important is the goal of financial independence?

Here's my input:

Whether it was the way I was raised, the experiences I've been subjected to, or just an innate resistance to rely on anyone for anything, financial independence has always been a huge priority — and even though my husband and I are pretty 50/50 on the income, there's a peace of mind knowing I could support our family if anything were to happen to him or us. I have firm control over our bank account and financial decisions, mostly because I've seen the devastating effects of financial infidelity and dependence. I've been burned — pretty bad, actually — and I'm grateful to have learned that lesson early. It happened to me, it happened to my mom, it happened to generations of women in the past — and it has the power to destroy a family.

I actually think it's one of the most important messages to come from the feminist movement — and in an age where we're redefining and reevaluating what feminism means in the modern world, is financial dependence a step backward? Does it strip away our options, as women? (I'm really asking for your opinion.)

I understand that circumstances might require a fair amount of reliance on others — whether it's your partner or your parents — but what about in your future?

I'd love to hear your thoughts, as a new wave of young women.