Let Abbey know she's not alone... From: Abbey Subject: Thank you!
Message Body: I found your website and just want to say thank you so very much for starting it. I am 23 and my husband and I have been married for a year and have bought a house. We both finished college, traveled and are now settling down into married life and are hoping to have our dream come true of a family very soon and being a stay at home mom. All of my friends are single or dating casually, still in grad school and looking for high powered careers and are no where near settling down. The other day I was at a grad party for one of them and thought, out of this room of 20-somethings I am the only married one with a house and dog, and it was an incredibly lonely thought.
Your site has helped me feel like I'm not alone in my desire to be a young mom like mine was. I even have all the society "credientals" of having a college education, husband and home, but I still feel judged. I can't imagine how hard it is for women who weren't expecting their pregnancy or weren't in the "perfect" situation. I appreciate all the support and advice I find on your site. Thanks again, Abbey
Note: Abbey also follow up with this:
I should add that part of the judgement I feel comes from the fact that I want to be a stay at home mom. Sometimes I get looks of horror. "You went to college and have this great job and want to give it up for a kid??!! At your young age of 23?!"
Related reading for Abbey (and anyone else who identifies):
Defending the young mom
My "taboo" traditional marriage
Wanting and choosing young motherhood
Why we love being early mamas
Having kids young might be best for your career
Good luck to you, Abbey!