Well maybe not all along — maybe not when we were staring at a positive pregnancy test, imagining our lives (and our careers and our relationships and our bodies) circling the drain. Maybe not when we felt stares at the grocery store or heard judgmental comments from the cool kids in our high school/college, doing so much more important things than growing humans. Maybe not when we caught phrases like "ruining your life" and "can you afford this..." and "but you're so YOUNG," while our minds were consumed in a thick, blurry fog.
Maybe not then. BUT NOW! Now we know what Slate is talking about when they report on The Case for Having Kids in Your 20s. Or when The Stir reports on that same article, but uses an even better title for our egos: Smart Women Have Babies in Their 20s. HELL YEAH WE DO.
To sum up: Slate is responding to an opinion piece in the New York Times written by a pregnant medical student, Anna Jesus. She wrote about why getting pregnant in med school — as opposed to during her internship or residency — was best for her. And so the Slate writer, Jessica Grose, writes about why it's not so crazy to get pregnant in your 20s.
"...Perhaps ambitious women in their 20s who also want kids should consider having them sooner rather than later."
The article touches on some of the things we've talked about here — the possible career benefits of having kids earlier, the big fertility advantage, and the fact that you don't have to "have your ducks in a row" before having kids. The Stir stepped in with the "younger bodies" argument, as well as explaining that a lot of young women (herself included) waste their 20s away.
And may I add a few more? How about the fact that young 20-something parents often have less lifestyle adjustments than those who wait until their 30s and 40s, and that motherhood can give us refocused goals and priorities at the BEGINNING of our careers rather than mid-way through. We also (typically) have less pregnancy complications and birth defects, less pressure from a ticking biological clock, and more energy.
Sometimes I tell people what my site is about and I get comments like, "Is it really THAT weird to have kids in your 20s — isn't that normal?" Or "Isn't it a little anti-feminist to encourage women to have kids so young?" And just when I'm about to internalize it, I get an email from a woman who found comfort in Early Mama, or I read articles like these that remind me just how "weird" it can be for ambitious women to get pregnant in their 20s. This site isn't about normalizing anything, it's about supporting the women who feel isolated and embarrassed and hopeless and completely out of control. To remind them that there are a lot of important benefits and a lot of smart, accomplished, ambitious young mothers out there. So answer me this...
Why was it smart for you to have a baby "earlier"?