What Will We Tell the Grandkids?

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There's been a lot of talk lately about age + fertility (here and elsewhere), and this recent post by fellow "early mama" Amber on Strollerderby got me thinking: How will we approach this issue with our daughters and granddaughters?

Amber starts off with the stats: The average woman today plans to get pregnant seven years later than her mother was with her first child. Seven years. And of course there are reproductive risks with waiting until your 30s and 40s to have kids, which today's young women are largely ignorant to.

She sums up the issue in this sentence: "Should we be educating our daughters on the risk they take in delaying the start of their family, or would doing so be perceived as an attack on the independence women have fought for and gained in recent decades?"

This really is the question, isn't it? How do we emphasize the importance of reproductive expiration dates without trapping young women, pressuring young women, stressing young women? How do we encourage our daughters, our granddaughters, to fulfill their professional and personal goals — which they're all capable of — while still reminding them that fertility doesn't last as long as we'd like.

How do we do this?

How?

(P.S.: These photos are of my 23-year-old sister.)