Continuing with our Why I Love Being an Early Mama series...
Besides the fact that 20-something moms have more time to have more kids, how about the fact that we're able to have kids at all? I told you about the article where an older woman urged younger women to think about their fertility before prolonging motherhood, yet I was still shocked to see the statistics: According to the Washington Post last year, women lose 90 percent of their eggs by age 30.
The data was collected by the University of St. Andrews and Edinburgh University in a study that basically concluded "use 'em or lose 'em." Of course it's important to know that we still have 30,000 or so eggs left by the start of our 30s — and many women can still easily get pregnant for years still — but starting in our mid-30s, fertility more quickly declines with every passing year.
We should all just be thankful that this extremely common scenario (wrapped up in a strangely entertaining package) isn't us:
That's not to say we wouldn't have been able to get pregnant in 10 years, but it may have been a more trying, stressful, regret-filled road. We can never know for sure how our "what ifs" would have panned out, but at least in this option, in this life, we have our children. And regardless of money or status or world travels, our children are what matter the most.
And for those who had or are having unexpected pregnancies (like me), do you have a sense of relief that the decision was made for us? Because if I waited for "the right time," who knows if it would have ever happened. I didn't intend on conceiving a child — not for many years — but it's the best decision I never made. A decision I'm thankful for every single day.
Because no matter what's ahead in my fertility's future, at least I have him.
This weekly series is simply meant to highlight all of the reasons we're grateful for our early mama lives, regardless of the assumptions that we should have waited. It's not meant to put down any other path, but only to encourage the moms who started early. If you have a reason, email or tweet me.